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Happiness comes from own actions

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“Happiness is not something ready-made. It comes

from your own actions.” ~ Dalai Lama

Since so many of us are looking for happiness,

wanting to share it with those we love and care

about, I came up with this idea of a 10 Day

Happiness Challenge. I trust that by committing to

these practices and by doing more of the things

that bring meaning and joy into our lives, we will

all start appreciating ourselves and our lives a

lot more and as a result we will become happier.

So here it is, your 10 Day Happiness Challenge.

Enjoy.

P.S. Just so you know, I will embark on this

challenge as well. I will be doing what you are

doing and experiencing what you are experiencing

and together we will make this world a brighter

and happier place. Let’s begin.

Day 1: Give a smile to every person you meet

I love walking on the streets with a big smile on

my face, but you know what I love even more? To

share my smiles with total strangers. The look on

their faces once they accept “my gift” is

priceless.

If you ask me, we are way too serious. Of course

we all have “grown up problems” and we all have a

lot of things on our minds, but that doesn’t mean

we should stop enjoying life. Life is short, we

might as well enjoy it as much as we can, and

smiling will help us do just that.

On this day, your “job” is to wear a smile on your

lips at all times and to share your smile with

everyone you come in contact with. Trust me, you

will be a lot happier if you do.

“Nobody needs a smile so much as the one who has

none to give. So get used to smiling heart-warming

smiles, and you will spread sunshine in a

sometimes dreary world.” ~ Lawrence G. Lovasik

Day 2 – Return to ONEness

There are days when I have moments of intense

clarity, moments when I can look at everyone

around me and realize that we are all ONE,

connected to one another. In those moments, I feel

so much acceptance, love and compassion towards

everything and everyone and I feel like hugging

the entire planet 🙂

If you go on the Moon and from there you look down

on planet Earth, I am sure that this concept of

Oneness will make a lot more sense to you. Of

course, there is no need to go on the Moon, you

can experience it all here on this planet.

We are all in this together. This is our home,

both mine and yours, and no matter how cheesy it

may sound, we are all one big family, all

connected, all ONE.

On this day, you will practice tolerance, love and

acceptance towards everyone you come in contact

with. By doing so, chances are that you will

experience the ONEness, the connection between

each and every one of us.

“We are one, after all, you and I, together we

suffer, together exist and forever will recreate

each other.” ~ Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

Day 3: Practice forgiveness

Forgiveness is such a powerful thing, for it can

heal our hearts, making room for love to enter,

allowing us to go back to our real and authentic

Self, giving us permission to re-connect with one

another at a deeper level. We forgive not because

we are weak, not because we are naive, not because

we want to be hurt again, but because we are

strong enough to understand that the more we hold

on to grudges and resentments, the more we pollute

our minds, our hearts and our lives.

On this day, see if you can practice forgiveness,

not only towards those who might have harmed you

but also towards yourself, for the things you

might have done, consciously or unconsciously, to

hurt or harm, not only yourself but those around

you as well.

Let go of anger, bitterness, hate or resentment as

much as you can. Allow love to govern your mind,

your heart and your life and allow peace to come

to surface once again.

“He that cannot forgive others breaks the bridge

over which he must pass himself; for every man has

need to be forgiven.” ~ Thomas Fuller

Day 4: Let go of pointless drama, toxic

relationships, thoughts and behaviors

We hold on to so many things that cause us a great

deal of stress, anxiety and unhappiness, and

instead of detaching and letting them all go, we

cling on to them. For some strange reason, we

believe that our happiness will come from holding

on to toxic thoughts, things, people, experiences

when in fact it will only come from letting go of

them.

“Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about

someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only

person you really have control over is yourself.”

― Deborah Reber

On this day, you will work on letting go of all

the pointless drama, toxic relationships, thoughts

and behaviors that are present in your life. On

this day you will learn to shift your focus from

the bad on to the good.

Day 5:  A complaint free day

I used to complain A LOT about every little thing

that was happening to me and all around me. I was

so busy pointing out all the things that were

going wrong in my life that I couldn’t see the

many things that were going right. I was really

good at pointing the maaaany things I didn’t like

that I forgot about the things i did like.

“Complaining not only ruins everybody else’s day,

it ruins the complainer’s day, too. The more we

complain, the more unhappy we get.” Dennis Prager

On this day, you will give up the need to complain

about the many things – people, situations, events

that make you unhappy, sad and depressed, and

instead, you will focus on the things that make

you feel good, on the things that are right with

the world. You will go 24 hours without

complaining, because you deserve it! 🙂

Day 6: Embrace an attitude of gratitude and

appreciation

I love the feeling I get every time I start to

acknowledge the good that is already present in my

life.  We get so busy with our problems and so

preoccupied with the many things that are missing

from our lives that we forget to express our

gratitude and appreciation for the many wonderful,

people and things that we already present in our

lives.

On this day, you will embrace an attitude of

gratitude and appreciation and you will say an

honest “thank you” for all the beautiful

experiences, things and people that are making

your life a lot more meaningful and joyful.

“Gratitude is the key to happiness. When gratitude

is practiced regularly and from the heart, it

leads to a richer, fuller and more complete life…

It is impossible to bring more abundance into your

life if you are feeling ungrateful about what you

already have. Why? Because the thoughts and

feelings you emit as you feel ungrateful are

negative emotions and they will attract more of

those feelings and events into your life.” 

~Vishen Lakhiani

Day 7: Practice Self love and acceptance

If you ask me, not too many people know how to be

their own best friend. We  are pretty good at

being our own worst enemy but not so good at being

our own best friend. The most important

relationship you will ever have is the one with

your beautiful and magnificent self and that is

why you need to learn how to love and accept

yourself fully.

On this day, you will act in kind and loving ways

towards yourself and you will treat yourself just

as you will treat your own best friend. On this

day, you will work on building the relationship

you have with yourself and you will give yourself

permission to be whoever you want to be without

placing any harsh labels or judgements on

yourself. On this day you will treat yourself with

much love and acceptance.

“You surrender to a lot of things which are not

worthy of you. I wish you would surrender to your

radiance … your integrity … your beautiful human

grace.” – Yogi Bhajan

Day 8: Practice random acts of kindness

What if, on this day, you practice giving without

expecting anything in return. What if on this day

you allow yourself to feel the wonderful joy that

comes from doing a good for someone without

expecting anything in return.

It can be anything… calling a friend or family

member you haven’t spoken to in a while, giving

free hugs (I looove hugs), paying for the person

behind you in a drive-thru or at a coffee shop,

leaving money in a public place for someone to

find, or maybe sending a card or flowers to a

person that might be going through a hard time. It

can be an expensive gift that you give, it can be

money or maybe just a love note that you leave on

someone’s desk. It doesn’t really matter how big

or small your gift is as long as you give it from

the heart.

Giving is receiving, it really is, and the more we

give to others, the more that we will receive

ourselves.

“Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in

thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving

creates love.” ~ Lao Tzu

Day 9: Lighten your material load

I used to be so bad at giving away things I no

longer needed. I remember when I came back from

U.S., I was in shock when I saw that my sister

gave away all my things to “the poor people”.

Because she assumed that I no longer needed them,

she gave them all away.

Even though I didn’t want to admit it at that

time, the truth of the matter is that she was

right. I really didn’t need those things anymore

but I just couldn’t give them away. I was so

attached to every single thing I had and I

couldn’t understand how can people give away their

things. It felt like such a weird concept to me.

Not sure who was weirder, me or the concept 🙂

I thought I was the one owning the stuff when in

fact the stuff was owning me. Well, things

changed, I changed and I am happy to say that I

now know how to let go of the things I no longer

use and I do it with ease.

When you give away things you no longer use, or

need, you make room in your life for better things

to come your way. You take out the old and you

allow the new to enter. Lightening your material

load can be a real therapeutical experience.

On this day, make time to go through your house,

your closets, your basement, etc. and take out all

the clothes, shoes, bags, books, and any other

stuff you no longer need or use. Give it all away

and see how much better, lighter and happier you

will feel.

“The more you have, the more you are occupied, the

less you give. But the less you have the more free

you are. Poverty for us is a freedom. It is not

mortification, a penance. It is joyful freedom.

There is no television here, no this, no that. But

we are perfectly happy.” ~ Mother Theresa

Day 10: Awareness Day

A few years ago I came to the realization that one

day I will die (yes, it took me quite some time to

realize that one day I will die). I saw in my

mind’s eye this image… It was me on the death bed,

looking back at my life with regrets, many regrets

about the many things I didn’t had the courage to do.

That image really scared me! As a result, on the

same day, I made a commitment to myself to start

living life fully and to make the rest of my life

the best of my life. To stop running away from my

fears and from life and to start living. In those

moments the words of Franklin D. Roosevelt made

more sense to me than ever:

“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.”

On this day I want you to use your imagination, to

see how your life would look like if you continue

living your life the way you are living right now.

When you will be on your death bed ready to leave

this world, looking back at your life would you be

happy with what you see, would you have any

regrets?

I don’t want this exercise to scare you but rather

to give you the push you need to start living life

fully.To use one fear (fear of living with

regrets) against another fear (fear of doing the

things your heart desires) and in the end to get

the push you need to start living life fully. If

you don’t do the things you fear doing and if you

don’t follow your heart, chances are that you will

live a life full of regrets…

“Remembering that you are going to die one day is

the best way to avoid the trap of thinking you

have something to lose. You are already naked.

Follow your heart.” ~ Steve Jobs

You see, happiness is not so hard to achieve.

By giving yourself permission to practice these

things for 10 days, not only will you become a lot

happier, but you will also become more disciplined

and focus on building other new positive habits in

different areas of your life.  If you tell your

mind you want to try something for 10 days, it

will most likely be willing to co-operate. 10 days

doesn’t feel like a very long time.

After you have completed your 10 days, your

conscious mind will have the choice of stopping or

carrying on with these healthy and positive

practices… or at least that’s what it thinks. Your

neural pathways have formed already and chances

are that you will continue with the new healthy

habits. 

You have seen the benefits along the way

and your unconscious mind will want to continue if

it has been beneficial. After the 10 days, you can

pick some of your favorite things from this list

and continue for 11 more days, to make it a total

of 21 days… Your 21 day happiness challenge. Use

your imagination and just have fun with it 🙂

Sent with love

Margaret

Margaret Hirsch
Margaret Hirsch
Hirsch COO runs South Africa’s top independence appliance company that specialises in all appliances, electronics, furniture and bedding. They give the best deals and the best prices and everything is guaranteed.