Motivation by Jonathan C

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Motivation by Jonathan C

 

People usually succeed in the long run.

 

This is the pattern I see in my long-term readers. They may

take a while to get moving on their goals at first. They may

endure some false starts and setbacks. They may

procrastinate now and then. But if a goal is important to

them, such as creating passive income streams or finding a

fulfilling relationship, they do eventually succeed.

 

Not all of them succeed of course. Some give up. Some get

sucked back into social groups that influence them to fall

off track. Some drift aimlessly without finding their focus.

 

But by and large, the people who persist do eventually

succeed. If they keep working towards their goals, keep

learning and growing, and stay conscious, they do make

progress, and they do achieve their goals.

 

Here are some of the patterns I see in readers who succeed

in achieving their long-term goals.

 

Take Goals Seriously

 

People who succeed take their goals seriously. They move

their goals out of the realm of fantasy and turn them into

practical objectives to be achieved.

 

One of the simplest ways to take your goals seriously is to

turn them into mental pictures and movies that you can

describe visually. If you can’t tell me what you’re seeing

on the movie screen, it’s a safe bet that your goal is just

a fuzzy fantasy.

 

Usually when people tell me about their goals the first

time, it’s a fuzzy fantasy. They list things like: make more

money, have more friends, and travel more. Does this tell

you what you’re seeing on the movie screen? Nope. Is it

clear if you’ve accomplished these goals or not? Nope. Do

these pseudo-goals let you off the hook and pretend you’re

making progress? Yup.

 

It’s okay to begin with a fuzzy fantasy, but don’t get stuck

there. Move your goal out of the realm of fantasy, and turn

it into a real-world experience. Frame your future experiences

the same way you frame your past memories. Memories are

events that happened. So turn your goals into similar events

that can and will happen.

 

A real goal will eventually be achieved, and then it will

become a memory. Memories involve sense perceptions, and

they’re mostly visual. So if you want to set a clear goal,

then describe the future memory. Traveling more or making

more money isn’t a memory.

 

If I asked you what you did yesterday, would you say, “I

made more money, had more friends, and traveled more”? If

you said something like that, I’d wonder that you might have

some brain damage. Don’t describe your goals like that

either. State your goals and intentions like you’re

describing a future memory. What are the actual events that

you’d like to experience?

 

A memory is something like going to the top of the Eiffel

Tower, enjoying the view of Paris, and taking a bunch of

photos while you’re up there. That’s a goal that can be

accomplished or not. It’s a goal that encourages real-world

planning and action steps. It’s achievable.

 

Start Modestly

 

People who succeed tend to begin with modest goals and build

up to larger goals when they get some success going. Those

who fail often bite off more than they can chew.

 

For instance, instead of trying to earn R10,000 per month

immediately, successful people usually start with a modest

goal like creating a passive income stream of R100 per

month. They work on that goal first and do what it takes to

achieve it. Then they can apply what they learned to parlay

that small success into a bigger success.

 

The failure stories often inject neediness into their goals.

I get emails from such people frantically telling me how

they need to make an extra R1000 to R3000 this month in

order to pay their rent or bills. In 12+ years of blogging,

I can’t recall a single case of one of these people ever

emailing me back to say that they succeeded.

 

Neediness will only get in your way, create extra stress,

and delay real progress. If you need to let the old world

collapse while you work on your long-term goals at a

realistic and intelligent pace, so be it.

 

Bite off a modest piece of your goal, work on it, and

achieve it. This will do more to move you towards a

long-term pattern of success than frantic scrambling.

 

Have Compassion for Your Future Self

 

Have some compassion for your future self. At some point

you’re going to be 5, 10, or 20 years older, and that future

you will have to endure the consequences of what you’re

creating now. If you’re wallowing in neediness or drifting

aimlessly, you’re sentencing your future self to a crappy

outcome, and that future you may blame you for it.

 

Instead of screwing over your future self, take a more

sensible and compassionate approach. Work to create a better

reality for your future self. That future self is going to

be you someday.

 

People who succeed look to give their future selves an edge.

They seek to put themselves in a more advantaged position

down the road. They make small sacrifices today to alleviate

stress and enjoy more fulfillment tomorrow.

 

Don’t Go Dark

 

Almost everyone goes dark at some point, sinking into

aimless drifting for a while and losing sight of their

goals. Those who succeed tend to bounce back quickly though.

They recognize when they’re going dark and even give

themselves permission to temporarily wallow in this state if

they need a break. They know they’ll get back to working on

their goals soon enough.

 

Those who don’t succeed tend to spend a lot of time drifting

unconsciously. For such people the experience of setting and

working on goal is just a temporary blip against a

background of aimlessness. The lights go on occasionally

when they get a burst of inspiration (usually from an

external source), but most of the time, the lights stay off.

 

Those who succeed keep the lights on most of the time. They

do their best to stay conscious. They keep moving the needle

forward, little by little, tackling one small milestone at a

time. They aren’t so easily discouraged by setbacks.

 

Be Flexible

 

People who get sidetracked often have a very rigid approach

to success. When their initial plans don’t work in the real

world, they keep repeating the same ineffective strategies,

stubbornly expecting that something new will happen

each time.

 

Those who succeed understand and accept that their initial

plans may not work. Each failure becomes a learning

experience. Successful people surrender their ineffective

approaches, so they can pivot towards new

possible solutions.

 

Those who fail usually explore very little of the solution

space. They hide out in a comfortable corner where there are

few results to be had. Those who succeed almost invariably

explore more of the solution space. Even after they get some

success going, they keep exploring to further optimize their

approaches, especially to improve overall lifestyle balance.

 

Embrace the Growth Journey

 

It usually takes people longer than they expect to achieve

their goals, regardless of what types of goals they set.

When we set a goal, we can’t accurately envision all the

micro-steps it will take to achieve it. We oversimplify the

journey. We overlook many details, and those details will

take time.

 

People who give up often succumb to impatience. They go dark

when the path becomes longer than expected, even if they

were making modest progress. Sometimes they pressure

themselves to meet unreasonable deadlines and then burn out

after a while.

 

Those who succeed may succumb to the previous pattern too,

but eventually they get past it. These people progress to a

more mature, more balanced, and less frantic approach to

growth and achievement. Short-term scrambling gives way to

long-term patience.

 

The key is to embrace the overall growth journey. See the

benefits not just in the goal to be achieved but in the

person you’re becoming along the way. The inner benefits are

more secure anyway. You can strip a growth-oriented person

of their external accomplishments and resources, and their

well-developed inner resources will help them bounce back to

their previous position and beyond.

 

Discover What Works and Repeat

 

Successful people sometimes find just one or two patterns

that work, and then they repeat. For instance, they may

create a R100 passive income stream and then repeat the

process dozens or hundreds of times. They also refine the

process as they go along, so each stream may be 10x more

effective after a few years of refinement.

 

Earlier this year I met a guy who keeps renting more

apartments in different cities and turning them into AirBnB

properties for a profit. He reinvests the profits in

securing more properties to create more revenue streams. I

believe he expects to make seven figures from his operation

this year, and he gains the added bonus of being able to

stay in any of his properties for free when he travels.

Margaret Hirsch
Margaret Hirsch
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