Some days are better than others. On those days
that go less well, we usually end up being hard on
ourselves. Here are some tools to avoid doing so.
1. Keep going. Don’t let life’s changes throw you
off track, but remember that most extenuating
circumstances are temporary. Gain more clarity by
staying the course and channeling your energy in a
2. Trust yourself. Believe in your inner
resources, no matter what, and you’ll grow from
the experience. I believe that the answers usually
lie within and you are probably smart enough to
figure out what you need to do. Give yourself a
little time and have patience.
3. Be friends with life. Remember that the world
is not out to get you and it does not punish you.
You do that to yourself. Learning to focus on
other opportunities or in another direction can
give you some perspective.
4. Watch your thoughts. Your thinking will never
be 100 percent positive. You must learn to dismiss
the negative thoughts and stay open to other ideas
that will help you move in a positive direction.
Start recognizing negative thoughts and use your
mind to quell them.
5. Summon the strength you have inside. Learn to
access and direct your strengths to the highest
good for all concerned. Believe that your strength
and intelligence can help you deal with anything.
Remember that you have survived worse.
6. Learn to love yourself. You do not have to be
who you are today, and your life is not scripted.
Changing how you feel about yourself means
creating a strategy, gathering some new tools, and
making yourself into the person you want to be. A
good way to start is to stop doing things that
7. Don’t want too much. Desire can be a powerful
motivating tool, but wanting something too much
can be very painful and very expensive, so don’t
live beyond your means or covet the unattainable.
Seek your desire, but keep your integrity.
8. Don’t get insulted. It is wise to be
dispassionate about critical comments. Human’s
will always bump heads, but consider the source,
and if it’s the other person’s issue, ignore it.
Learn to respond instead of react, and don’t show
9. Recognize that disappointment is part of life.
Even the most successful people have to deal with
disappointment, but they’ve learned how to use it
to get to the next level of life. The trick is to
process your feelings, then take some kind of
10. Deal with your fears. Overcoming fear makes
you stronger, and being a little scared can make
you better. You want to have butterflies; you just
want them flying in formation. It helps to
understand and admit your fears. Then you can kick
them to the curb.
Feel good about yourself, no matter what life
brings. Know that each time you wake up, you have
another chance to make things better. Don’t waste