Worry is thinking about what you dont want rather than what you want!!
HOW CRAZY IS THAT??
How to Break the Worry Cycle
We all worry. It’s part of the human condition, isn’t it? But did you know that worrying is actually a habit – and one that’s sometimes very difficult to break. Chronic worriers are so busy projecting themselves into a future filled with disastrous consequences that they miss the present moment. So for July, I’d like to share some tips to help you if worry is an issue in your life.
The “what ifs” that worriers obsess about rarely come true, but can wreak havoc on the physical and mental health of the person worrying.
Breaking the worry cycle takes a lot of practice. You’ve got to pull yourself back from anxious thoughts about the future and plant yourself firmly in the present moment so you can observe and identify the problems and then do something about them.
So here are my 5 simple tips to break the worry cycle and live a mindful life so you can finally get in touch with your emotions:
1. Acknowledge your anxiety
This actually comes from Zen Philosophy and it makes absolute sense when you think about it. Life is a series of ups and downs, ebbs and flows… yin and yang… and accepting the bad feelings you are experiencing is just as important as accepting the good. It won’t do you any good to fight the feelings, so just acknowledge them and
observe why you’ve having them. Accept that they are part of who you are, and know that these bad feelings won’t last. They rarely ever do. Once you acknowledge this to yourself, their power dissipates.
2. Don’t engage the worries
When you embrace your fears and worries and begin to analyze them, you can see how ridiculous most of them are. When you see worry as your ally, you can begin to take necessary steps to solve the situation and get on with your life without the paralyzing fear that worry brings. Living in the present moment helps you to see worry for what it really is – a projection into a future that’s not likely to happen. It’s especially difficult to embrace your worries if you’ve had a negative experience in the past. You may be worried that the same thing is going to happen again. But you can choose to change the way you think… by imagining the best case scenario.
3. Use meditation to focus on the present moment
I know, you’ve probably heard it a thousand times, but the reason for that is because meditation has proven to be one of the most effective, cost-free and simple exercises you can engage in. All you have to do is sit quietly, focus on your breath… imaging breathing in peace and harmony, and breathing out stress and tension. Just do this a few times a day for 5 minutes. It’s surprisingly effective! You can incorporate this practice during the ‘acknowledgement’ phase in Tip No 1 above.
4. Practice other worry-busting techniques
There are many relaxation techniques which can help you set the worries free so that you can get back to making the most out of your life. Tai Chi, Yoga and techniques that practice deep breathing. Taking a walk in nature, playing with your kids/pets, reading a good book – basically doing anything that takes your mind of your inner self is a good way to break out of the ‘worry cycle’.
5. Write the worries down
Write down all your worries and woes. Then write out all the possible outcomes, and next to those, write out what you can realistically do to effect those outcomes. Doing this helps take the worries out of your mind and frees it up to focus on more productive mental activity.
If you practice these tips regularly, you’ll soon begin to feel more harmonious and worry will decrease as a result. You’ll have broken the worry cycle for the most part, but when they do creep back in, using the acknowledgement/meditation tips will help you sail through them with far less anxiety than before.
I hope that you find these tips useful, and watch out for next week when I’ll bring you so more insights on how to stop worrying.
Sent with Love