Our real blessings often appear to us in the shape of pains,
losses and disappointments; but let us have patience and we soon
shall see them in their proper figures.” ~ Joseph Addison
What if one day you woke up and decided that you were tired of
feeling tired and that you had enough of everything? Enough of
stress and anxiety, enough of anger and resentment, enough of
struggle, lack, pain and poverty, enough of tears, heartbreaks,
self destructive thoughts, behaviors and relationships and enough
of all that is negative and toxic? What if you decided that you
wanted to change yourself and your life but didn’t know where
exactly to start, what then?
There are many things you can do to begin rebuilding your life
and make it ridiculously amazing and today I will share with you
12 things that are meant to help you do just that.
Are you ready?
- Make a commitment to yourself
I (put your name here)
Make a commitment to myself,
To spend so much time improving myself and my life that I have no
time for worry, judgement, criticism, whining and complaining;
To forgive, release and let go of my attachment to any past
struggles and allow every challenge life sends my way to make me
better not bitter.
Starting now, I make a commitment to let go of what’s behind me
and start appreciating what’s in front of me;
To let go of all the pointless drama, all the bad
relationships, thoughts and behaviors that are present in my life
and to constantly shift my focus from the bad on to the good;
To make room in my heart for love, happiness, peace and
tranquility and to create my life from a place of infinite
choices and possibilities – the present moment, and no longer
from a place of limitations – the past.
I commit to staying true to myself at all times and to never
betray myself just so I can please other people.
I commit myself to give up on negative thought, behaviors and
relationships but never on myself and my dreams.
Starting now and starting today, I will begin rebuilding my life
and to make it ridiculously amazing.
(put your name here)
Once you truly commit to rebuilding your life and making it
ridiculously amazing, nothing and no one will be able to stand in
- Forgive, release and let go of past hurts and resentments
Fill your heart with love. Forgive, release and let go. Not
necessary because those who mistreated you deserve it, but
because you do. Let forgiveness liberate you from your past.
Allow it to take away all the resentment you kept in heart for
all this time and allow yourself to fill in that empty space with
love, inner peace and compassion.
If others mistreated you in the past it doesn’t mean you have to
continue their work. Look how beautiful Mark Twain talks about
this: “Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in
which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.”
Release and let go of all the negativity from your life. Start
small and trust that as you work on letting go of all the extra
baggage that is weighting you down, you will begin to feel
lighter and you will gain a lot more clarity over your life. You
will feel happier and more at peace with yourself and the world
- Visualize your achievements and create your destiny
Ask yourself the same question I asked myself a few years ago
when I decided to let go of my attachment to my past and begin
rebuild my whole life: “If there were no limits to what I can do,
be and have, how would my life look like?”
Let your imagination run wild. Dare to dream big. Don’t settle
for less than you are worth.
The richer your imagination, the more beautiful your life will
“The power of imagination is incredible. Often we see athletes
achieving unbelievable results and wonder how they did it. One of
the tools they use is visualization or mental imagery… they made
the choice to create their destinies and visualized their
achievements before they ultimately succeeded.” ~ George Kohlrieser
See in your mind’s eye the life you would love to live, the
person you would love to become and the relationships you would
want to have. Live your life from the end and act as if all of
the things you need and desire are already present in your life.
Feel the feelings that come from having all those wonderful
things happen to you and allow those feelings to be with you at
- Dreams won’t work unless you do
Act upon your heart’s desire. Do the things you need to do in
order to get where you want to get. Read the books you need to
read, contact the people you need to contact, build the skills
you need to build.
Find a mentor. Dare to ask questions. Do whatever it takes to
move yourself closer to making your dreams come true.
Trust that with every step you take, your life situation will
improve and you will become even more happier than you already
- Take one step at a time
Because of the many years of past conditioning and the intense
training you have in holding on to toxic thoughts, behaviors and
unhealthy relationships, giving up on all that is bad in your
life won’t be easy and it won’t happen overnight. Chances are
that you won’t see major improvements in your life immediately,
and that’s okay. Be patient and gentle with yourself while
working on rebuilding your life and remember to enjoy the
“Focus on the journey, not the destination. Joy is found not in
finishing an activity but in doing it.” ~ Greg Anderson
Take one step at a time and keep in mind that a journey of 1000
miles begins with a single step.
- Give yourself permission to “fail”
Give yourself permission to “fail” and make “mistakes”.
Trust me when I tell you that in every “mistake” there is a
lesson to learn, lesson that will be very beneficial to you as
you continue walking on your life’s chosen path.
“There are no mistakes. The events we bring upon ourselves, no
matter how unpleasant, are necessary in order to learn what we
need to learn; whatever steps we take, they’re necessary to reach
the places we’ve chosen to go.” ~ Richard Bach
- Give up living your life to other people’s expectations
Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live.
They live their lives according to what others think is best for
them, they live their lives according to what their parents think
is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their
teachers, their government and the media think is best for them.
They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling.
They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other
people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They
forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need….and
eventually they forget about themselves.
Never get your sense of worth from outside yourself. Your worth
comes from inside yourself and not from forces outside yourself –
people, events, material possessions. Don’t ever let other people
tell you how much you’re worth, decide for yourself. It’s called
self worth not others worth.
You have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own
it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you
from your path.
- Surround yourself with loving and supportive people
Surround yourself with positive, cheerful, supportive and loving
people. People who can lift you up when you are feeling down;
people who will turn on the light for you when you are in the
dark; people who can see you for what you truly are and who you
can truly become. Take the advice of Mark Twain and “Keep away
from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people
always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too,
can become great.”
You need positive and loving friends who will support you in your
new way of life…
Commit yourself to making the best of everything life sends your
way. Be soft and flexible. Go with the flow of life and no longer
Enjoy the ride and no matter what happens to you and no matter
how many challenges and difficult people life might send your
way, know that they are all there to help you grow and evolve
into the beautiful being you so much want and deserve to be.
You only have one life to live. Make it a memorable one.
Give up on all the negativity present in your life but never on
yourself and your dreams, ok?
“The road of life twists and turns and no two directions are ever
the same. Yet our lessons come from the journey, not the
destination.” ~ Don Williams Jr.