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Begin to rebuild your life

Our real blessings often appear to us in the shape of pains,

losses and disappointments; but let us have patience and we soon

shall see them in their proper figures.” ~ Joseph Addison


What if one day you woke up and decided that you were tired of

feeling tired and that you had enough of everything? Enough of

stress and anxiety, enough of anger and resentment, enough of

struggle, lack, pain and poverty, enough of tears, heartbreaks,

self destructive thoughts, behaviors and relationships and enough

of all that is negative and toxic? What if you decided that you

wanted to change yourself and your life but didn’t know where

exactly to start, what then?


There are many things you can do to begin rebuilding your life

and make it ridiculously amazing and today I will share with you

12 things that are meant to help you do just that. 


Are you ready?


Let’s begin:

  1. Make a commitment to yourself

I (put your name here)

Make a commitment to myself,

To spend so much time improving myself and my life that I have no

time for worry,  judgement, criticism, whining and complaining;

To forgive, release and let go of my attachment to any past

struggles and allow every challenge life sends my way to make me

better not bitter.

Starting now, I make a commitment to let go of what’s behind me

and start appreciating what’s in front of me;

To let go of all the pointless drama, all the bad

relationships, thoughts and behaviors that are present in my life

and to constantly shift my focus from the bad on to the good;

To make room in my heart for love, happiness, peace and

tranquility and to create my life from a place of infinite

choices and possibilities – the present moment, and no longer

from a place of limitations – the past.

I commit to staying true to myself at all times and to never

betray myself just so I can please other people.

I commit myself to give up on negative thought, behaviors and

relationships but never on myself and my dreams.

Starting now and starting today, I will  begin rebuilding my life

and to make it ridiculously amazing.



(put your name here)


Once you truly commit to rebuilding your life and making it

ridiculously amazing, nothing and no one will be able to stand in

your way.


  1. Forgive, release and let go of past hurts and resentments


Fill your heart with love. Forgive, release and let go. Not

necessary because those who mistreated you deserve it, but

because you do. Let forgiveness liberate you from your past.

Allow it to take away all the resentment you kept in heart for

all this time and allow yourself to fill in that empty space with

love, inner peace and compassion.

If others mistreated you in the past it doesn’t mean you have to

continue their work. Look how beautiful Mark Twain talks about

this: “Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in

which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.”

Release and let go of all the negativity from your life. Start

small and trust that as you work on letting go of all the extra

baggage that is weighting you down, you will begin to feel

lighter and you will gain a lot more clarity over your life. You

will feel happier and more at peace with yourself and the world

around you.


  1. Visualize your achievements and create your destiny


Ask yourself the same question I asked myself a few years ago

when I decided to let go of my attachment to my past and begin

rebuild my whole life: “If there were no limits to what I can do,

be and have, how would my life look like?”

Let your imagination run wild. Dare to dream big. Don’t settle

for less than you are worth.

The richer your imagination, the more beautiful your life will


“The power of imagination is incredible. Often we see athletes

achieving unbelievable results and wonder how they did it. One of

the tools they use is visualization or mental imagery… they made

the choice to create their destinies and visualized their

achievements before they ultimately succeeded.” ~ George Kohlrieser

See in your mind’s eye the life you would love to live, the

person you would love to become and the relationships you would

want to have. Live your life from the end and act as if all of

the things you need and desire are already present in your life.

Feel the feelings that come from having all those wonderful

things happen to you and allow those feelings to be with you at

all times.


  1. Dreams won’t work unless you do


Act upon your heart’s desire. Do the things you need to do in

order to get where you want to get. Read the books you need to

read, contact the people you need to contact, build the skills

you need to build.

Find a mentor. Dare to ask questions. Do whatever it takes to

move yourself closer to making your dreams come true.

Trust that with every step you take, your life situation will

improve and you will become even more happier than you already



  1. Take one step at a time


Because of the many years of past conditioning and the intense

training you have in holding on to toxic thoughts, behaviors and

unhealthy relationships, giving up on all that is bad in your

life won’t be easy and it won’t happen overnight. Chances are

that you won’t see major improvements in your life immediately,

and that’s okay. Be patient and gentle with yourself while

working on rebuilding your life and remember to enjoy the


“Focus on the journey, not the destination. Joy is found not in

finishing an activity but in doing it.” ~ Greg Anderson

Take one step at a time and keep in mind that a journey of 1000

miles begins with a single step.


  1. Give yourself permission to “fail”


Give yourself permission to “fail” and make “mistakes”.

Trust me when I tell you that in every “mistake” there is a

lesson to learn, lesson that will be very beneficial to you as

you continue walking on your life’s chosen path.

“There are no mistakes. The events we bring upon ourselves, no

matter how unpleasant, are necessary in order to learn what we

need to learn; whatever steps we take, they’re necessary to reach

the places we’ve chosen to go.” ~ Richard Bach


  1. Give up living your life to other people’s expectations


Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live.

They live their lives according to what others think is best for

them, they live their lives according to what their parents think

is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their

teachers, their government and the media think is best for them.

They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling.  

They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other

people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They

forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need….and

eventually they forget about themselves.

Never get your sense of worth from outside yourself.  Your worth

comes from inside yourself and not from forces outside yourself –

people, events, material possessions. Don’t ever let other people

tell you how much you’re worth, decide for yourself. It’s called

self worth not others worth.

You have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own

it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you

from your path.


  1. Surround yourself with loving and supportive people


Surround yourself with positive, cheerful, supportive and loving

people. People who can lift you up when you are feeling down;

people who will turn on the light for you when you are in the

dark; people who can see you for what you truly are and who you

can truly become. Take the advice of Mark Twain and “Keep away

from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people

always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too,

can become great.”

You need positive and loving friends who will support you in your

new way of life…

Commit yourself to making the best of everything life sends your

way. Be soft and flexible. Go with the flow of life and no longer

against it.

Enjoy the ride and no matter what happens to you and no matter

how many challenges and difficult people life might send your

way, know that they are all there to help you grow and evolve

into the beautiful being you so much want and deserve to be.

You only have one life to live. Make it a memorable one.

Give up on all the negativity present in your life but never on

yourself and your dreams, ok?

“The road of life twists and turns and no two directions are ever

the same. Yet our lessons come from the journey, not the

destination.” ~ Don Williams Jr.

Margaret Hirsch
Margaret Hirsch
Hirsch COO runs South Africa’s top independence appliance company that specialises in all appliances, electronics, furniture and bedding. They give the best deals and the best prices and everything is guaranteed.