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How to deal with stress

Most of us tend to lose our peace of mind due to a

variety of reasons such as economic worries,

relationship problems and health issues, to

mention only a few. We live under the constant

fear of an uncertain future and do not know how to

cope with it.

 

Here are some tips to change the way you deal with

stress:

 

  1. Re-asses what you have set your heart upon

 

You may have set your heart on things that are out

of your reach for whatever reason. Sometimes you

can knock your head off trying to realize your

heart’s desire, but you won’t be able to fulfil

  1. It is, therefore, no use holding on to an

unrealistic goal you cannot achieve.

 

You must understand that everything is not under

your control. Just try to digest this reality

sincerely without any ego and let me assure you

would start feeling light and easy immediately.

 

  1. Look at life like drama unfolding before you

 

There are generally two reactions when you are

watching a movie (of life, in this case).

 

First, you get involved with the storyline and

start hoping or wishing the way the things should

turn up.

 

Second, you remain detached or perhaps relaxed.

You continue to eagerly watch wondering how the

story is going to unfold.

 

Which of these two situations is better?

 

In the first situation you feel sad and of course,

sometimes happy (temporarily) as well-at the turn

of events in the story. But in the second

situation of wonderment and pure curiosity, you

just enjoy the story without being emotionally

involved. You utter: How interesting! I wonder

what would happen next!

 

A state of curiosity is obviously much more

enjoyable than a state of expectation and hope.

 

  1. Understand that only a calm mind is capable of

clear thinking and action

 

Start affirming to yourself: I am going to stay

calm whatever happens. Or, the awareness of the

need to stay calm –a practical necessity in such

cases–by itself can be very helpful in facing the

situation that is going out of your control. Once

you allow yourself to be overwhelmed by the

events, you may become myopic, take wrong

decisions and regret later on. If you stay calm

you will be able to handle the situation in a much

better way.

 

  1. Develop control over self rather than the

circumstances

 

Sometimes, your response to a bad

situation—generally of fear, confusion and stress-

can be worse than the consequences of the

situation itself.

 

The external world is, of course, out of your

control, but you can control the world within you.

Whenever you are torn by ifs and buts or any

negativity in your thoughts, keep affirming: I

will handle any situation that may emerge.

Gradually you will develop faith on your strengths

and a time will come when all doubts and

uncertainties will disappear. Then you will have

nothing to fear even in fearful situations.

 

  1. You are not the only one to stumble and fall

 

Don’t feel guilty. In fact you are only one of the

countless thousands who are stumbling and falling

on a daily basis. Life is like that. What is

important is that you should retain the awareness

that you are not going to be held down by your

fall and that you need to get up and be on your

feet again. Keep moving on even stumblingly. You

will still be moving forward.

 

  1. Remember the heroes who valiantly cope up with

life

 

Remember Stephan Hawking who contracted motor

neurone disease when he was just 21 and was given

only 2 years to live. He went to Cambridge and

held the post of Lucasian Professor at Cambridge,

the chair held by Isaac Newton in 1663. His A

Brief History of Time became the best seller. Do

you think your condition is even worse than that

of   Professor Hawking and countless others?

 

  1. Focus on the silver linings in the black clouds

 

Have you ever lost your way in the darkest night

when the skies are overcast with thundering clouds

made worse by frightening bursts of lightening?

But then did you not feel relieved that the

sizzling, quivering, serpentine maze of light

lasting not even a second, so to say, brightened

the landscape and also showed you the way to your

home? What matters is that you should try to focus

on what can be helpful in difficult situations and

make the best of it.

 

Here is an inspiring quote by Peter Marshall:

“When we long for life without difficulties, let’s

remember that oaks grow strong in contrary winds

and diamonds are made under pressure.”

Margaret Hirsch
Margaret Hirsch
Hirsch COO runs South Africa’s top independence appliance company that specialises in all appliances, electronics, furniture and bedding. They give the best deals and the best prices and everything is guaranteed.