Most of us tend to lose our peace of mind due to a
variety of reasons such as economic worries,
relationship problems and health issues, to
mention only a few. We live under the constant
fear of an uncertain future and do not know how to
cope with it.
Here are some tips to change the way you deal with
- Re-asses what you have set your heart upon
You may have set your heart on things that are out
of your reach for whatever reason. Sometimes you
can knock your head off trying to realize your
heart’s desire, but you won’t be able to fulfil
- It is, therefore, no use holding on to an
unrealistic goal you cannot achieve.
You must understand that everything is not under
your control. Just try to digest this reality
sincerely without any ego and let me assure you
would start feeling light and easy immediately.
- Look at life like drama unfolding before you
There are generally two reactions when you are
watching a movie (of life, in this case).
First, you get involved with the storyline and
start hoping or wishing the way the things should
Second, you remain detached or perhaps relaxed.
You continue to eagerly watch wondering how the
story is going to unfold.
Which of these two situations is better?
In the first situation you feel sad and of course,
sometimes happy (temporarily) as well-at the turn
of events in the story. But in the second
situation of wonderment and pure curiosity, you
just enjoy the story without being emotionally
involved. You utter: How interesting! I wonder
what would happen next!
A state of curiosity is obviously much more
enjoyable than a state of expectation and hope.
- Understand that only a calm mind is capable of
clear thinking and action
Start affirming to yourself: I am going to stay
calm whatever happens. Or, the awareness of the
need to stay calm –a practical necessity in such
cases–by itself can be very helpful in facing the
situation that is going out of your control. Once
you allow yourself to be overwhelmed by the
events, you may become myopic, take wrong
decisions and regret later on. If you stay calm
you will be able to handle the situation in a much
- Develop control over self rather than the
Sometimes, your response to a bad
situation—generally of fear, confusion and stress-
can be worse than the consequences of the
The external world is, of course, out of your
control, but you can control the world within you.
Whenever you are torn by ifs and buts or any
negativity in your thoughts, keep affirming: I
will handle any situation that may emerge.
Gradually you will develop faith on your strengths
and a time will come when all doubts and
uncertainties will disappear. Then you will have
nothing to fear even in fearful situations.
- You are not the only one to stumble and fall
Don’t feel guilty. In fact you are only one of the
countless thousands who are stumbling and falling
on a daily basis. Life is like that. What is
important is that you should retain the awareness
that you are not going to be held down by your
fall and that you need to get up and be on your
feet again. Keep moving on even stumblingly. You
will still be moving forward.
- Remember the heroes who valiantly cope up with
Remember Stephan Hawking who contracted motor
neurone disease when he was just 21 and was given
only 2 years to live. He went to Cambridge and
held the post of Lucasian Professor at Cambridge,
the chair held by Isaac Newton in 1663. His A
Brief History of Time became the best seller. Do
you think your condition is even worse than that
of Professor Hawking and countless others?
- Focus on the silver linings in the black clouds
Have you ever lost your way in the darkest night
when the skies are overcast with thundering clouds
made worse by frightening bursts of lightening?
But then did you not feel relieved that the
sizzling, quivering, serpentine maze of light
lasting not even a second, so to say, brightened
the landscape and also showed you the way to your
home? What matters is that you should try to focus
on what can be helpful in difficult situations and
make the best of it.
Here is an inspiring quote by Peter Marshall:
“When we long for life without difficulties, let’s
remember that oaks grow strong in contrary winds
and diamonds are made under pressure.”