As human beings, we operate daily reflecting a wide
range of emotions with a multitude of motivations
fueling our behaviors. All too often, we react
emotionally to what others say or do. If our reactions are
preceded by the emotions of fear, anger, or sadness,
we forfeit our ability to act with personal power
and effectiveness in lieu of a knee-jerk response.
This reaction is inconsistent with the law of prosperity
and is all too often sourced in fear and low self-esteem.
We may focus on what’s wrong with us and our
lives, fear being controlled, hurt, or taken advantage of.
We may overlook the many things we have in
our lives for which we should rightly be grateful,
doubt our ability to thrive and access the law of
prosperity and the abundance we see all around
us in the world, reacting instead from the concern of
scarcity and the expectation of failure, hurt, and
disappointment. We may see ourselves in competition
for the world’s resources and the love and attention
of others rather than realizing that the law of
prosperity tells us that there is more than
enough of all that is good to go around.
We forget that we manifest what we expect
rather than needing to compete for limited resources.
Whenever we forget that the law of prosperity
supports our success as magnificent beings and that
there is plenty of wealth, happiness, fun, and
fulfillment to go around, we might feel the need to protect
ourselves from what we perceive to be a dangerous
world. We likewise tend to forget that others operate
from the same lacking self-confidence, scarcity of
gratitude, and deficient self-love and ignorance of the
law of prosperity that we often do. So, whenever
two or more individuals see themselves as not good
enough to tap into the world’s abundance and get all
their needs met from a physical, social, mental,
and emotional perspective, conflicts are likely to
arise. The result is broken relationships, strained
communication, emotional pain, struggle, and suffering.
All of these are needless and optional for those
who realize their ability to detach from the
struggle and master their emotional response.
When we stop to realize that everyone else
suffers from the same self-doubt and fear of being
dominated and cheated out of getting their
fair share of love, fun, money, possessions, and security,
we can break the vicious cycle of endless
competition and continual striving for domination.
We can realize that cooperation and communication
is more effective in producing harmony than
competition and a focus on self-interest based on
fear. We can intentionally choose to trust that
others are doing the best they know how to do
based upon how they see the world. We can assume
that they act from good intentions, even
when we fear the opposite. We can hold them as worthy,
competent, loving, good natured and capable of
creating win-win relationships rather than fearing
them as hateful, ill meaning, incompetent, unworthy,
When we decide to champion others by looking
for the best in them and interact with them out
of an attitude of gratitude for their gifts, strengths,
and positive qualities, in such as manner that
they are clear that we hold them as intrinsically
good and worthy of our love and respect, we
provide for them a new and exciting opportunity
for them to show up for us in this manner.
Our decision to hold others as great (because
they really are when we strip away their anger,
fears, and insecurities) allows them the freedom
to rise to our expectations. By operating from
love and gratitude for the wisdom and empathy
we develop as a result of our interactions with
others, we see their mistakes as temporary
indiscretions producing valuable lessons from which
to learn and grow rather than reflections of
a fundamentally defective being.
The key to bringing out the best in others is
non-attachment. When we realize that we have
total control over our response to any situation,
and we give up our right to be invalidated
by others or control them, we will possess a
newfound freedom that allows us to exit the
drama of conflict in favor of understanding,
compassion, and love. Decide now to be
grateful for the challenges you will encounter in
your life and business. See the problems
that arise as opportunities for your personal
development. Look for these challenges as
you go about your day, be grateful when
you encounter them, and seek out the gifts
awaiting your discovery.
Exercise for Expanding Gratitude and Shifting Your Reactive Nature
- List all the things you have decided to be grateful
for in your life and business.
- In your daily journal, record each time you fail to express gratitude
for a challenging situation.
- Catch yourself reacting emotionally to what someone says or does and
shift your perception in that moment to appreciate the learning experience at hand.
- In your daily life and business, who are you not holding as magnificent?
- How can you champion their excellence and express gratitude for the
opportunity to grow in love and wisdom that they are gifting you instead
of reacting with anger, sadness, or fear?
- Who are you seeking to control or avoid being controlled by?
Will you take on the practice of non-attachment in your relationship
with them by creating space for them to be who they are?
Do this for 30 days and record in your journal how your interactions
with them evolve. Make note of something that you can be
grateful for in each situation.